Where is the Father?

Pro-choice feminism is inhibiting male responsibility.

27 June 2021

Annick Tankus

The Pro-Choice narrative “My body, my choice” shines the spotlight purely on the woman: the mother. This spotlight matches the new-wave feminism that many who are Pro-Choice appear to embrace. The woman is in control. She has the say. She has the right. Let no man tell her what to do. Yet, at the same time, these Pro-Choice feminists demand men to “do more than the minimum” and “take responsibility for their actions.” This double-sided narrative has done nothing more than allow for men to continue in their wayward acts or prohibit men from wanting to fulfill their responsibilities.

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, the father figure has changed over the course of time from sole breadwinner of the traditional family to stay-at-home dad and more. And let us be real, the man as a symbol has not always been the most righteous, godly, upstanding image—regarding the treatment of women. We have seen the abusiveness, immorality, and irresponsibility of many fathers that have pervaded society. Nevertheless, the man as a father plays a vital role in the upbringing of children, especially their sons. They serve in the roles of provider, supporter, comforter, role model, etc. A poor father figure often leaves many children to feel lost and neglected which negatively shapes their view on fatherhood affecting future generations. But instead of wanting to break this vicious cycle, the new-wave feminism and Pro-Choice agendas strengthen and continue it.

Johnathon Abbamonte, from Pop.org, cites that “73.8% of women with a history of abortion…experienced at least subtle forms of pressure to terminate their pregnancy.” The National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) further states that “partner related reasons” makes up 31% of why women choose to abort (Understanding Why). If she does not abort, she will most likely account for raising one of the 18.3 million (1 out of 4) children who will be raised without a father (US Census Bureau according to Fatherhood.org). The US Census Bureau continues in their “Survey of Income and Program Participation” to state that out of all the fathers, 7 million (20.2%) will be absent (Two Extremes of Fatherhood).

NCBI, in the same article, also states that 41% of abortions occur due to financial reasons. It can be clearly seen that mother cannot solely rely on herself to provide for her child and herself. Whether society wants to call it stereotypical/sexist or not, the mother looks towards the father to offer aid. While this dependence was meant and is beautiful, sin has allowed for man to look at the woman as vulnerable and weak, easy to coerce. This is obviously not all men, but it does explain the mindset of partners or one-night stands who pressure for abortions. They recognize that the woman relies on them whether because of “love” or for support.  

Thus, abortions only allow for these types of men to be able to remove responsibility from themselves and place the “problem” on the mother only. Is this really what a woman wants? Is this truly freedom? Or is this—in modern society ideology—another misogynistic, sexist ploy to oppress the female? Besides the other moral issues surrounding abortion, removing and degrading the role/responsibility of the father and fatherhood has done nothing more than to hurt women, children (boys/men regarding this topic), and society.

Society and feminism complain of the lack of men taking responsibility and action yet mocks and scorns the idea of masculinity. Starting at a young age, males are brought up hearing that they are sexist and misogynistic and unfair to women. Then they hear that they are not doing the “bare minimum” even though a few seconds before they were accused of not allowing a woman to do what a man can do. With abortion, “My body, my choice” (or any abortion argument) sends a message to men that their actions have no consequence. They are free to go around and have no care in the world for what they have done.  

But this is clearly immoral and unfair. He does share a role in a woman’s pregnancy. To tell men that they have no voice because they do not have a uterus is simply ignoring the father’s role in creating the child. Yes, women definitely feel the pain and everything that entails pregnancy, but let us remember that without the man, she would never have such a situation. Society needs to stop with its double negative. If it wants to criticize the male population, call them to take responsibility and stop prohibiting men from doing so.

So now what? How can society rectify this? Break the cycle. Break the cycle of boyfriends forcing their girlfriends to have an abortion so they can escape the responsibility of raising their child. Break the cycle of fathers abandoning their families so that their boys will not grow up thinking it is ok to do the same thing. Break the cycle of society destroying the beauty and goodness of the family nucleus and the moral upbringing of children.

https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2019/11/the-two-extremes-of-fatherhood.html

https://www.fatherhood.org/father-absence-statistic

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3729671/

https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/138/1/e2

Image from: https://www.viacharacter.org/topics/articles/my-father-as-a-kaleidoscope-of-character-strengths

Where is the Father?

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